Alicia McKay

Based in Wellington, New Zealand. Writes on strategy, change, leadership, consulting, public sector and local government.

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Could COVID-19 change relationships forever?

When I receive grateful emails and messages from readers and fans, I sometimes feel uneasy. I received one such email last week, which went as far as...

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Values-based leadership: Practice what you preach

On Thursday night, I received the final proof of my new book, ready to go to print on Friday morning. I scanned over the cover, checked the layout...

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Embrace meh: 6 surprising benefits of feeling like shit

Feeling like sh*t, or 'FLS' is one of the most common elements of the human experience. I dare you to find someone who’s got through a week without...

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Embrace meh: 6 surprising benefits of feeling like shit

Feeling like sh*t, or 'FLS', is one of the most common elements of the human experience. I dare you to find someone who’s got through a week without...

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3 Things You Can Do To Make Your Meetings Suck Less

Because they probably suck… and it’s probably not your fault. Why are so many workshops and meetings that are supposed to be important, so hopeless?...

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Leading through change: the power of language

“Words create worlds” - JONATHAN FRANZEN Two years ago, I conducted a personal experiment after reading James Clear's Atomic Habits. To be more...

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Intangible assets: create business value that lasts

I was listening to the radio this morning when a soundbite caught my attention - a business expert talking about "intangible assets." I've been using...

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8 ways to kill stress for good

We’ve been on a stress rollercoaster the last couple of years, haven’t we? We had all that lovely acute stress in COVID, where we smashed into panic...

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Why are you like this?: How strengths overused become weaknesses

Why am I like this?!" is a bit of a catchphrase in my house. Usually, I’m bemoaning something I’ve stuffed up. Either I’ve messed up my admin, worked...

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Why are you like this? Tricky questions that need asking

"Why am I like this?!" is a bit of a catchphrase in my house. Usually, I’m bemoaning something I’ve stuffed up. Either I’ve messed up my admin,...

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Five skills for leading strategic conversations

Leadership used to be a pretty straightforward affair. The boss knew all the things and told all the people who worked for them what to do.

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How to identify, set, and defend your boundaries

It's hard to set boundaries. We don't want to let people down or look bad. But when we refuse to draw a line in the sand about what we will and won't...

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Your 2020 digest

It would be easy to treat 2020 a bit like a regretful purchase – you know, when you throw the receipt away without looking at it or stuff your...

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Angry people

I woke up on Sunday morning full of Christmas spirit. Oh wait, no, I didn't. I woke up on Sunday morning full of indignation, which I channelled into...

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Get angry, it's great

I woke up on Sunday morning full of Christmas spirit. Oh wait, no, I didn't. I woke up on Sunday morning full of indignation, which I channelled into...

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Facilitating difficult groups: 6 lessons I learned the hard way

When I was 22 years old, a graduate policy wonk in my first real job, I was tasked with my first strategic planning assignment. The brief: prepare a...

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How to plan your year when things are uncertain

This is usually the time of year when I’d have my 2021 on the wall, month by month, meticulously planned out—significant pieces of work, trips away,...

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4 steps to playing the long game

How was your 2020, overall? Mine was a nightmare, to be honest.

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How to convert a cynic: assume positive intent

As a facilitator, I can spot a cynic a mile away. Their body language is pure resistance: folded arms, suspicious expressions, and deep sighs. They...

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How to handle uncertainty

Last week, I argued that people don’t fear change. As I outlined in this LinkedIn post, we fear what change represents: loss, uncertainty, learning...

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How to think about change

If you’re not doing ‘change’ right now, you’re not in fashion. Whether it’s organisational change, personal transformation (hi Spring!) or even...

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How to stop being a plastic bag

American Beauty is one of my favourite movies. In one memorable scene, we watch Ricky’s video of an empty, wrinkled plastic bag tossed about in the...

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Freshen Up Your Focus

If 2020 has taught us anything, it’s that priorities shift. As we returned to our homes, spent more time with our families, watched our health more...

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How to handle uncertainty

Last week, I argued that people don’t fear change. As I outlined in this LinkedIn post, we fear what change represents: loss, uncertainty, learning...